The Gifts of Imperfection

New York Times best-selling author and professor Brené Brown offers a powerful and inspiring book that explores how to cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection to embrace your imperfections and to recognize that you are enough.

Each day we face a barrage of images and messages from society and the media telling us who, what, and how we should be. We are led to believe that if we could only look perfect and lead perfect lives, we’d no longer feel inadequate. So most of us perform, please, and perfect, all the while thinking, What if I can’t keep all of these balls in the air? Why isn’t everyone else working harder and living up to my expectations? What will people think if I fail or give up? When can I stop proving myself?In The Gifts of Imperfection, Bren 頂 rown, PhD, a leading expert on shame, authenticity and belonging, shares what she’s learned from a decade of research on the power of Wholehearted Living–a way of engaging with the world from a place of worthiness.In her ten guideposts, Brown engages our minds, hearts, and spirits as she explores how we can cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough, and to go to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am sometimes afraid, but I am also brave. And, yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging.

Learnings

  1. Wholeheartedness is not just a step taken for some improvement in the life section. It is a process, a life long journey to live a beautiful life, to become alive human beings. It is not a destination, but a never-ending journey within itself.

  2. There is a lot of difference in involving people in social media and talking live, face-to-face with them in the real world. The real and live conversation- the more connectedness and feelings.

  3. Courage, root word “cor” comes from Latin word which means “heart”. So, courage is not showing or being heroic. It is not about doing good deeds for other people. It is about putting your vulnerability on the other line. It is about expressing the real you. It is about expressing, what you feel like without any filters. “Speak” and “act” what you feel like (by heart). Just let go of everything. The more you let go of things, you will be more true yourself.

  4. Compassion means feeling the heart to heart feelings, regardless of pain, hatred or any other blaming. In this world, for any fault we submit blames to any other people without understanding all the accountability and understanding the whole scenario itself. We accept less, so we possess less compassion.

  5. When people share their inner feelings, instead of saying “this all happens”, instead of “showing aggression”, instead of “judging that people”, instead of “telling your story”, just listen attentively to the person and feel genuinely for the person, wholeheartedly.

  6. The meaning of becoming more perfect is “more craving for acceptance, pride and accountability” which you shouldn’t.

  7. The three components: Courage, Compassion, and Connectedness really bring breakdown in our life. We need to have in our life ASAP.

  8. Do not confuse yourself on the topic of success. Success is not only one person’s action. Accept other people’s help by heart and welcome to your journey. Other people are ready to help if you are ready to ask for help.

  9. To practice courage, compassion, and the connection is to look at life and the people around us, and say, “I’m all in.”

  10. Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving hep.